Friday, February 10, 2006


Scarlett, circa 2003, age 17.

If she were a movie star, she'd have been Bette Davis. Long-lived, queenly, unable to suffer fools at all, let alone gladly. Whenever I was crying, she leaped into my lap. But somehow as she did this, I envisioned not a comforting pat, but rather Bette switching off Liebestraum and snapping, "I detest cheap sentiment."

She died today.

I love my cats because I love my home, and little by little they become its visible soul.
- Jean Cocteau

17 comments:

Flickhead said...

You have my sympathies, Siren. I'm very sorry to hear about her passing.

As I try to write this, my arms work their way around Big Fat Mushie, who's sitting on my leg -- not my lap. Thomasina's close by, licking her chops. Pollyanna is snoozing on the sofa. And little Ali is on the bed, snuggled under the sheets. How she un-makes the bed is anyone's guess.

I love my cats, and I feel your loss.

girish said...

Oh, my condolences, Siren. I'm so sorry to hear it.

I don't have any cats sharing my home with me, but la chienne PeggyLee is my bestest pal. As was Sophie when she rose heavenward two years ago.

surlyh said...

My dog Leo has been with me for 15 years. He's having his troubles, but soldiers on.

You have my deepest sympathies.

boisdejasmin said...

Oh, I am so sorry to hear this! Poor baby. She was all the things you describe. I recall that she would stare at me with a mild annoyance, but eventually came to accept my presence. She was a very special cat.

(((F)))

Tania said...

A cat *is* a home's soul. She sounds like your ideal familiar. I am so sorry she had to go. It sounds as if she lived a regal long life with you. May she reign in cat heaven.

Campaspe said...

Thank you all so much.

goatdog said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your cat. She looked exactly like my childhood cat Smudge.

Cary Grant wrote this to someone (Clifford Odets?) about the loss of a human companion, but our cats are just as dear to us:
"There's an unreality, delusion of disbelief, an incredulity that affects--perhaps even protects--the feelings of each of us when we lose, and miss, someone who has shared our emotions and thoughts, yet none of us can know the extent of another's inconsolability or the degree of [her] sadness. . . . I am sending this note as I would reach out a hand, to bring you sympathy and affection, dear friend."

chutry said...

My condolences. The Bette Davis analogy seems perfect based on your photo.

While I'm allergic to cats and can't keep them at home, I have a deep fondness for other people's cats.
Chuck
http://chutry.wordherders.net

Dan Jardine said...

This is so sad. We recently lost our 19 year-old cat. One does not bounce right back, but there will come a time when it does not pain you to think back on your life together. And soon, the twinge of pain becomes a warm ember of fond remembrance.

Jonniker said...

F, I am crying for you. I remember you talkng of the lessons your cats taught you for your twins. :) I am so so sorry she is gone, and will be thinking of you, as always.

xxoo and much love,
Jonna

tempesttozephyr said...

Many condolences, F, I'm so sorry.

Sian

Exiled in NJ said...

My daughter-in-law says our mixed sheepdog's eyes look clouded and I realize my 90 pound buddy will be 12 in two weeks. Her back legs aren't those which ran the golf course after her friends, but she still bounches around when the UPS truck comes. I can't imagine sitting at this desk without her, so my heart goes out to you with your loss.

katiedid said...

I'm so sorry, she sounds like she was quite a character, as well as the soul of your home. My sympathies to you guys.

Annieytown said...

I am so sorry F.
I love when V wrote that she would stare at her with annoyance. She sounds like such a diva kitty.
This was a wonderful memorial to her.
)))F(((

Campaspe said...

Thank you so much for all the kind messages. With all the dreadfulness in the world, I feel a bit self-indulgent mourning an elderly cat. But you guys make me feel a bit better. We all have our loves, and grieve their loss.

Zach Campbell said...

It's coming late, Siren, but as a cat lover I feel compelled to offer my own inadequate but heartfelt condolences, too ...

Campaspe said...

Thank you, Zach. All of the messages have helped a lot.